Are you still under the impression that when you have the body that you want that you will be happy, if you are not happy now?
Having the best body will not make you happy. Having low cholesterol will not make you happy. An ego that is not happy where it is now will not be happy in the future, or it will temporarily in the moment those conditions have been met, but then revert to old ways.
All the time I am working with people who are wanting to lose weight. I help them do that, but we make happiness the way of the journey. Too many people buy into the martyr’s ethic of self deprivation on their way to achieving that end goal. Sacrificing something of themselves that they did not need to sacrifice. And when they get there, they are not happy.
The media continues to propagate messages that are influencing the choices of all generations, in a way that will be impossible for so many. I spend much time deconditioning folks of the beliefs that they have picked up about the way their body “should” look. Do you know the ones getting in your way?
So many young men are unhappy with the size of the muscles on their body. They want to get bigger. They start using steroids with the belief that this will make them happy. Why do they want to be big? For more happiness? And yet, the effects of steroids lead in the long time to unhappiness.
For young women it is often the butt. It usually has that cellulite on it. If they can just make that cellulite go away they will be happy. Well, I can tell you that I know of at least one super model who worked out a gym that I worked out of that still had the cellulite and it did not stop herself loving herself and making great headway in the world of modeling.
Whatever your vision for health is move towards it. It feels exciting. But what you notice is that the happiness that you feel in moving towards that vision is here in the now, not there, out in the future. Can you hold on to that happiness?
In Part II, “It’s Your Choice To Be Happy”.
In a few short sessions with Matthew you will be sure to know how you have been blocking your happiness and once you implement the changes, will be well on your way to creating what you want, whilst being happy where you are right now. It takes courage to shine the light on the areas of self hatred and that is where support is so valuable. Contact Matthew for coaching directly.
“I was immediately impressed by Matthew’s insight and intuition. Within minutes he had uncovered the real work I needed to do beyond the symptomatic concerns I presented with. With immense care and listening, Matthew guided me through even my deepest fears and limitations. Each week I noticed how improved my life and business became. After 10 sessions, I had the mad thought that maybe I could not afford to continue investing in myself with this work immediately realised that I could not afford NOT to continue my journey with Matthew as it was benefiting my life and business so much! I have referred others to Matthew and they too are blown away his the gentle yet powerful work. I pray that you give yourself the same beautiful experience - you will be amazed!”
Michael Lewis - Managing Director of Different Dynamic, www.DifferentDynamics.com
