I was never one to be told what to do. I did not like being controlled. I would rebel against authority. I prided myself on it! Yet it also stopped me from receiving and implementing good advice in my life.
So many of my clients feel the same way and even have a tough time hearing advice from me when they have paid for it.
Maybe this is you. Do you have an aversion to be controlled? Do you reject advice that could very well work for you because of it’s source? Do you detest being told what you need to do to improve your fitness? The changes that you could make to your diet that would greatly benefit your health.
A Dance the Anger
Many people that I work with have actually had a lot of anger towards those who controlled them when they were younger, or in present relationships. As a result, they have an aversion to being told what to do and will create all kinds of blocks to health.
Once the need to be angry has been released, these same clients have allowed themselves to receive new guidance. They find they are better able to surrender to the control of a supportive universe.
What We Judge
And those who dislike being controlled the most, end up becoming very controlling themselves. They control situations through food or by blocking people out of their lives. Over enough time, we become what we judge because we give it so much negative attention.
My parents who only wanted to the best for me. I loved them to bits, but I didn’t always resonate with how they saw the world. I would get angry when people tried to tell me what to do, thinking that they did not know what was in my highest good. Sometimes they didn’t but many times they did.
I remember the first day when I was talking to my mother and she spoke great words of wisdom that she had never stated to me before because I had blocked myself from hearing it. Once I opened up to allowing it in, it came thick and fast.
I have been controlling in the past. It may happen again. It is a part of all of us and the sooner we love and accept ourselves for it, the better.
A Little Good Advice
Be open to the possibility that someone who has controlled you in the past, may actually have some very good advice for you. Be open to the possibility that this person could be you.
When you allow yourself to hear the wisdom of the universe, whether through a mentor, a coach, a book , or in meditation, you enhance your level of self control.
Those who fear the control of others over their life, often experience very little self-control. They struggle with diets and exercise. In releasing judgement of those who do control, and accepting them, we in essence give ourself permissions to be in control of our own life.
Breaking Free of the Shackles of Control
1) Release the need to control others.
2) Release the subconscious memories of being controlled that are preventing you from receiving good advice.
3) In healthy ways, release the anger you feel towards those who have controlled you. This step will involve invoking the strength of forgiveness.
4) Open yourself up to receiving wisdom and advice from others. Books, mentors, coaches, friends, even family!
5) Own your spiritual wisdom, which knows what choices will serve your higher self.
Releasing attachment to control is an important step in claiming back health and wellness. It is not always easy to do by yourself, when you don’t see where you are doing it. And, if you don’t like having people tell you what to do, it is likely still an unclaimed part of you. Coaching is a powerful way to allow yourself to receive the wisdom of the universe through another. In 5 sessions you can be well on the way to creating peace with control.
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