But I want to want it……
It is one thing to “want to want to lose weight/ be healthy” and it is another thing to “want to lose weight/be healthy”.
There is so much pressure in our world to look and be a certain way. To eat this way, to join this group or that group. Our list of “should do’s” becomes incredibly big and overwhelming for those believing they are wanting to change.
So many people come to me saying that they want to lose weight. Some muscle testing quickly tells me that subconsciously they do not. They “want to want to lose weight”. They ache to be able to actually reach that place where they want to lose weight.
Being OK with not wanting it
There is a positive intention behind every behaviour that we take on. Your eating that chocolate bar when you know it just adds to the midline has a positive intention behind it. Determining the positive intention behind any behaviour is what will end the struggle within yourself.
Once you have determined that positive intention, loving and accepting the choices you have made to date is paramount, otherwise you wander down that road of not believing you are good enough.
Accepting that you did not want to change and that you are still a good person. That was then, this is now. You have new awareness and it has happened in divine timing.
That way you you move away from fighting who you were, and step effortlessly into who you want to be.
Why She Didn’t Really Want To Be Healthy
I was working with a counsellor a few years ago who came to me because she wanted to lose weight and get healthy again. But she didn’t really. Everyone was telling her that she should. She knew with all her health training, that she was not serving herself. She was not in that place of wanting it genuinely for herself, I could tell.
I began to ask her if she has ever had a time in her life when she was slim. She shared with me that she had been very slim and attractive as a young woman. She had always been getting the interest of the guys. She ended up getting into relationships where she was not treated well, she gave away her power, and as a way to protect herself she gained weight. Being a counsellor she was able to zero in on her challenge straight away.
This counsellor had many books on good eating, exercise and spiritual healing. But, she had not yet achieved that place of wanting to be there. For her, her sickness was still serving a purpose. Staying overweight was keeping the men away from her, it was keeping her safe.
Until she was willing to challenge this belief, and believe that there are good men out in the world who would treat her well, and love her, she would continue to grasp onto the old way of being.
I can relate to this story, being overweight or injured gave me approval from outside sources that I did not believe that I would receive by being in my power. Now, those have had to change in order to bring about the ever improving health and well being in my life.
If you have struggled with body weight and have at some point been that slim and attractive person you yearn to be, what could possibly be the reason that you don’t want that? What are the negative thoughts that you have about having a healthy slim body?
Be honest with yourself. What fears lie behind not wishing to change?
Here are common ones:
“When I eat these foods, I have the approval and love of my family. When I don’t eat what they offer, they get angry.”
“When I am healthy and slim, men will have power over me”
“When I was fit and athletic, other people were jealous”
“Being fit and athletic is not spiritual”
“I don’t want to be thinking about food all the time like those health nuts”
There are many possible reasons that folks can be holding on to their old stories, refusing to adopt the new one. Loving and accepting the old story is step 1. Creating the new belief and story is key to a new existence.
Really each moment in which we are presented with an opportunity to change, we have a choice as to whether we want to or we don’t want to. And if we don’t want to, why?
It is because the familiar, painful though it is, is familiar. That which is not familiar is scary. It takes courage to be willing to step into the unknown and that is where faith makes all the difference. Those who believe in a good higher power, that governs and guides them to awesomeness in life make those leaps of faith more readily. Constant appreciation and gratitude will guide you
Those who join me and the other participants at the event “The Healthy Mindset For Fat Loss” will be uncovering those reasons why sugar is still guiding their path, why they don’t want to exercise, and challenging themselves to change these in healthy ways. The results that people experience through truly making the decision to let go of the old story are thriving and living abundantly.
Read here for all the information and to join me at this life changing event.
The Mindset For Healthy Fat Loss
