Be Happy, Be You
Posted on 11. Apr, 2011 by matthew in Blog
I remember being a teen. I wanted everyone to like me. It didn’t stop in my teenage years either. I carried it into my adult years and it caused me much pain.
You see, no matter who I tried to like, there were people who didn’t like me. And in order for them to like me, I had to pretend to be someone that I am not. And I became very confused.
Then, as an adult I didn’t trust myself at the core of my being. I was so used to lying to the world so that it would like me. I was really lying to myself.
I was speaking with one teen the other day and I got him to finish this sentence for me.
“The reason people don’t like me is……..”
It confused him for a moment, and then he said ” because I am happy.”
So, in order to be liked, he took on the role of the complainer. Being happy had caused him to be the outsider. I promised him that if he could have the strength to stay happy in the face of others ridicule, in time he would notice a change.
It is easy to fit in. Standing true to yourself is the hard part because that is where you face possible ridicule. The key is to loving yourself that way. If you really and genuinely love yourself you will draw friends to you that resonate with who you really are. You will eventually find the joy you are seeking in life.
I know it is not always easy for a teen to think like that when high school is the time of so many changes in our personal world. But I can tell you the short term satisfaction of fitting in to the in crowd leads to pain in later life as you no longer know where you really fit in.
It takes courage to be the real you in our world, but that is where you will find the most joy. There will be moments of pain and rejection, but if you are persistent you will find your place in the world, and will draw people to you like a magnet. And from there you will fill your piece of the divine puzzle. Be happy. Be you.
What are your experiences? What are your thoughts? Share them with me and stimulate future blogs.
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